Are you incapable of being present in your marriage while doing recovery?
It may feel like she is trying to take charge of your recovery.
It's a constant struggle between what your body wants, and what the civilized part of your brain says you should do, in order to avoid the negative consequences of cheating on your spouse and ruining your long-term relationship.
That's why affairs, and extra-marital sex, are often referred to as "a moment of weakness.” ― Oliver Markus, tags: affair, affairs, cheating, cheating-and-desire, cheating-boyfriend, cheating-husbands, cheating-in-relationships, cheating-spouse, extramarital-affair, monogamous, monogamy, relationship, relationship-advice, relationship-quotes, relationships, sexual-desire, sexual-tension, sexy “Ladies!
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
If you are one of those who is taking recovery seriously you have probably received guidance from many individuals: therapists, sponsors, coaches, books, meetings, etc. It is important to remember that those who are there to help you through your personal recovery are not often marriage experts and some of their well-meaning marriage advice may hurt more than help. By putting your recovery first you are doing what is best for her. Ignore all advice that sounds anything like what I mentioned above–that “her side of the street” stuff. So, how do you let your wife in while respecting the anonymity of the group, while being able to feel safe in your counseling sessions without having to worry about having to go back and report everything that was said? Give her so much information that she doesn’t have to ask.This grants you the space to turn inward and begin healing yourself, without the daily episodes that trigger your deepest unconscious wounds, sending you ten steps backwards, rather than making your way forward.But what if this person is not someone you can cut out of your life right away?Or they could be a colleague at work, someone in a friendship group or even a neighbour, which would mean changing a big part of your life in order to remove yourself from them.Whatever the case, there are many of us that may have to deal with a narcissist indefinitely at one point or another.