However the first 6 months there were a lot more hurdles to overcome, which led to the relationship breaking down.
Yes, I knew that he was divorced and had two children, but just knowing that he did want kids was to overcome the first hurdle of dating him.
By putting more pressure on him, I pushed him away.
To avoid adding pressure, make sure that you know that you are both on the same path.
That relationship produced a daughter who was 3 at the time that the divorce took place.
I got remarried 2 1/2 years ago and we now have a son who just turned 11 months old this week.
I recently received an email from a female reader seeking my input on a situation that she's dealing with.
I personally know people who have gotten together while one party was separated, and in one case the wife refused to sign so they had to wait for it to lapse and got married as soon as it did a few years later, and in the other instances where it worked out, there was no faffing about with the divorce, Future Faking etc.We may be imagining all sorts of problems that may or may not exist or we’re rationalising our own boundaries, values, and even prior experiences of being in one of these situations (so knowing that we may struggle with the emotional consequences) and are thinking along the lines of, ‘Well…I’m of a certain age so I need to prepare myself for turning a blind eye to any code amber / red actions and indications because people in this age group tend to be recently broken up / separated / divorced‘. There’s no easy answer to the question of what the ‘right time’ is for dating a separated or recently divorced person.Having dated a divorced guy, I can speak from experience of what to do and the mistakes to avoid if you do decide to go down this path with a divorced guy, especially if they have kids.DATING MISTAKE 1: I ignored the signs of his opinion on kids.